Is this that unspoken feeling?

yes i mean love....i hope it is

Published on November 27, 2003 By NellRocker In Personal Relationships

Me and my boyfriend, Jay say i love you all the time, but are we? I thought i was in love before, with my ex boyfriend, ad, and i still believe that i was, he took so long to get over and now he's in love again. Maybe all these relationships haven't been love at all, just a really strong liking, coz it seems to have come to me too easily and love is usually thought of to be something of an enigma (indeed) and something that doesn't come around too often. It's not that it's everyday life and i'm in love with loads of people. Heres the thing:
I think about jay all the time
i love being with him all the time
i hate to leave him
i can tell him everything
i dont want anyone else
i hate it when something bad happens, it really upsets me even if its hardly anything at all
it feels fantastic to be with him, i never smile as much as when i'm with him (or my girlfriends)
i have a new found confidence with him

BUT is it love? someone tell me. if anyone wants to enlighten me - helen_is_hell@hotmail.com hhahahahaha

Comments

Annette O

on Nov 27, 2003

The New Testament of the Bible was written in greek originally. There are several words in the greek language that are expressed by the all inclusive english word "love". The description you give, if mutual is a good sign of your commitment to care about each other. The golden rule first coined in the bible is to love others as yourself. That is "philadelphia" or "brotherly love". This is the way we should be toward other people. Perfect love like that is described in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

4 Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or
5 rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered.
It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do.
6 Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.
7 Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
8 Love never fails!

Between a man and a woman you also get that special attraction that the Greeks called "eros". That is physical, chemical, sexual attraction. It is a force that can strengthen the relationship enormously if accompanied by "philadelphia" love to protect the family unit.

However, as imperfect human beings, nothing lasts forever unless we constantly work at it to preserve it. Time and problems can make "love" grow cold. Doubt shows up. Everyone makes mistakes, is led astray, and has to suffer through the mistakes of others.

Love can appear as a superhuman list of characteristics, and it is. It means that when things go wrong there is forgivenness and a continuing of a right relationship. One cannot hold bad behavior over a person's head in order to control. That is not forgivenness. But it just means that there has to be every effort not to repeat the error.

If one loves, it means that there has to be a deepening of commitment, caring, and submission to each other in the progress of life. That way the relationship can be like that of those rare couples who intimately, fully cared more about their partner than themselves through everything life could throw at them until they died. That is true love.

Nobody has that right away. It is a journey, a commitment to be that way for the rest of one's life. Marriage is an edifice that has to be rebuilt every day. You can do it!

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